Notes on Leadership and Self-Deception - getting out of the box

Knowing the material:

• Self -betrayal leads to self-deception and "the box."
• When you're in the box, you can't focus on results.
• Your influence and success will depend on being out of the box.
• You get out of the box as you cease resisting other people.

Living the material:

• Don't try to be perfect.  Do try to be better.
• Don't use the vocabulary - "the box," and so on - with people who don't already know it.  Do use the principles in your own life.
• Don't look for others' boxes.  Do look for your own.
• Don't acuse others of being in the box.  Do try to stay out of the box yourself.
• Don't give up on yourself when you discover you've been in the box.  Do keep trying.
• Don't deny that you've been in the box when you have been.  Do apologize; then just keep marching forward, trying to be more helpful to others in the future.
• Don't focus on what others are doing wrong.  Do focus on what you can do right to help.
• Don't worry whether others are helping you. Do worry whether you are helping others.